So I just went around and snooped on blogs of people I know and read all kinds of goofy stuff. It is amazing how much you can learn if you pay attention. And some people take even worse pictures than me!! So I thought, my blog is really boring! Sorry if we bore you.
I also read something that made me think. I read one that said we have to dream. I have a real problem with "dreams". First of all you dream that you will grow up and get married to Prince Charming and be rich and life is rainbows. Then you have your first fight and you have that big "POP" go off and realize this is going to be a lot of work, he is never going to be a Prince, and we'll never be rich, and that the dream isn't what you really wanted in the first place. Then you have friends and you see them put their dreams above their family and you worry that their priorities are askew... and they end up losing both. And they're not happy even if they do get their "dreams". So I have been leary of "dreaming" because I don't want anything to get in the way of what I am supposed to be doing. Being a mom. Being a wife. Taking care of what is here NOW so I don't have to do remedial work later. And if the dreams come along and happen, great... but I find God surprises me with things I never would have even hoped for. So I am happy without having my castle and trip to Hawaii. My big dream of family forever is all that matters right now. Maybe later I will set goals... but I will have to call them something besides dreams...
So that was really boring, I know introspection on a blog is just... yech... so I will try to get out of that and be entertaining!
3 comments:
Hey, I am going to take offense to that sense mine was one of your blogs you checked out. j/k I agree on the whole dream thing. It is all just empty air. The real things that matter were not dreams, and most likely not even planed. Don't change a thing on your blog... you are entertaing just being yorself!
ditto!!!!! That was wonderful. Love you guys.
My very sweet stepmom replied to this in an email, and straightened me out on stuff... so I thought I would share here. She is right, too. She says it is a matter of semantics but to consider dreams vs. fantasies.
That really put things in clearer focus for me. Then she goes on to say, "Dreaming is a mental exploration of the possible, everything within reach. But it requires work on your part to achieve it. For example, losing weight or becoming skilled at something. Whereas I think of fantasies as un-achievable. Like getting taller or winning a lotto. You have nothing to do with getting there, just enjoy the results. Either way, I think my brain likes to dream and sometimes even to fantasize but it knows the difference." So I guess I have heard people using the term "dreams" a little too much for "fantasies" and lumped them together. I have goals. I have long term ones and short term ones and some that are #1 priority (keeping the kids safe) and some are way down the list like publish a book. I guess the problem I have is when people get the priorities askew and make the book more important than the kids. She wrote lots more very complimentary and sweet things too. Thanks, Anne. From someone as accomplished as you that means more than I can say. Getting back to work now!
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